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Is it wrong to be naked in front of kids?

In that publication that regularly gives me palpitations, The Daily Mail, Laura Libbert last year asked the sterling question “Was I wrong to let a stranger’s 5 year old son see me naked”? and since we’ve started swimming lessons for the kids this week, it seems highly appropriate to revisit the issue.


naked in front of kids - inflatable toys in swimming pool

Photo by Toni Cuenca on Unsplash

Apparently, she was accosted by a horrified mother as she wandered around the communal area of a female changing room in her gym ‘au naturel’, completely naked in front of kids.

Cue much muttering of “well I let my sons (4 and 6) see me naked and they don’t have a problem” and desperate canvassing of friends for their opinion – basically “be loud, be proud and woggle those dangly bits sista”

You know, nudity isn’t actually the issue here, it’s the lack of consideration for others’ feelings and the lack of social awareness which seems to blight so many trips out with children these days.

I don’t care if you run naked like natives with branches in your hair at home, I don’t want my kids viewing your shrubbery.

To be fair, it sounds as if the writer accidentally dropped her towel rather than auditioned as a model for an Art Life Class but a bit of decorum wouldn’t come amiss.

Isn’t it OK to teach your children that wanting your own space and preserving your modesty is your right? Caitlin was happy to change for swimming in a cubicle rather than strip off in the general melee of naked boys and girls running about screaming like banshees.

The article also raised the question of when it is no longer appropriate for children to see adults naked – or is it always OK?

Are we creating sexual hang-ups by hiding genitalia away? I think children are becoming sexualised far too early. Do I want my children to have sex education at 5? No. Do I want my daughter dressed like a beauty queen at 6? Certainly not.  It’s difficult enough for kids to grapple with the stark truth that their parents have sex, let alone be faced with free-range nudity when out in public.

No. I think the point is that parents need to be on the ball (if you’ll pardon the pun) to ensure that THEY take the lead in their child’s sex education and are filtering the morass of inappropriate material thrown at all of us by the media each day.

I’m sure at this point there will be much tittering (missus!) and cries of “well let’s see how smug you are lady when they are tweens and your ears are bleeding from their incessant demands” And I have a horrible feeling they’ll be right.

But is it wrong to want to protect childhood innocence for as long as possible? Do you think it’s OK to be naked in front of kids – particularly when they’re not yours?



  1. Diana
    13 December, 2021 / 6:26 am

    I can totally understand when parents don’t want their children exposed to the nude bodies of the opposite gender.

    However, I think that parents are doing a disservice to their children when they go out of their way to make sure that their children don’t see same gendered people in the nude in locker rooms.

    I especially feel that it’s beneficial to female children to see other females casually and comfortably nude in locker rooms. I think that it’s important for young females to see their mothers, sisters and even female strangers being comfortably nude in non-sexual situations like showering and changing in a female locker room. We need to teach our daughters to be comfortable with their bodies. And when they see their mothers or even strangers hiding to make certain that they can’t be seen in the nude, it sends those young girls the message that the female body is shameful and should never be seen.

    I’ve even read articles by child psychologists who have said very similar things to what I said above, that it’s psychologically healthy for females to be exposed to other female bodies in locker rooms.

  2. Alice Hughes
    20 April, 2015 / 9:55 pm

    I don't have children yet so it's difficult for me to relate but I don't think there is anything wrong with wanting to protect your children's innocence, I think kids grow up far too quickly these days!

  3. 19 April, 2015 / 11:19 am

    I agree with Cardiff Mummy! It should be your choice to expose your children to whatever you wish and I def think there should be some level of social awareness in changing rooms when there are children around.
    I am trying to find some balance as I just want to keep my baby wrapped up in cotton wool at all times but def no Facebook or mobile phones for us either x

  4. Cardiff Mummy Says
    18 April, 2015 / 6:27 pm

    I'm not sure if it makes me prudish but I really don't like seeing people strutting around naked in front of me in a changing room, never mind in front of my children! My children see me and my husband naked at home, but I think that's different in a family setting. I just don't feel it's appropriate in a room of strangers. I want my children to be body proud but I also want them to understand appropriate behaviour, modesty, personal space, what makes people feel comfortable and uncomfortable etc. #archiveday

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