Coping With Anxiety – Practising Parking For A Ballet Debut

You know when you do things you don’t need to but feel compelled? No, I’m not talking about OCD (although that’s another story). It’s one of the challenges of coping with anxiety on an on-going basis.

My anxiety levels have risen since I left my job as a marketing director in a law firm for the much more challenging role of stay at home mother.

coping with anxiety - woman locking her car

I think it’s the lack of project deadlines or not having to report in that’s done it. Sometimes I wonder if it’s the onset of the (whisper it reader, whisper it) menopause so I’m popping a bit of the old Black Cohosh each morning just in case.

My GP has snorted in derision at this suggestion – “the average age is 53” – but who needs proper medical advice when you’ve got hoards of complete lunatics offering unsolicited advice on the internet, right?

Anyhow, Caitlin is having a trial ballet lesson this afternoon and I have just spent approximately an hour this morning scouting out the venue and, more importantly, potential places to park.

My preferred approach to parking is “trundle to the desired location and stop”. My parallel parking is right up there with my macrame skills – both end up in knots. It’s quite embarrassing to have to admit it because it’s not very, well, feminist is it?

I know if I don’t do this, I’ll lie awake obsessing about how long it will take me to drive to Canton, the odds of finding a parking space and every single location I could possibly park within a one-mile radius.  Not conducive to a good night’s sleep, I can tell you – even though I know I’ll have sat nav to help me out these days!

I find these days I have to micro plan everything which means I’m efficient but as any fan of meaningless management jargon will know, it might not make me very effective. It’s certainly not doing my blood pressure any good.

Still, it’s Friday which makes it a “mummy’s special juice” evening and in the meantime, I will peruse my wall of self-help/stress management tomes to see what random advice I can adopt today about coping with anxiety and promptly forget all about tomorrow.

Caitlin is so excited about going to ballet. I studied ballet myself until I was 16, having all the grace of a three-legged gazelle. I remember the pink tights and ballet slippers, the leotard and my mum cursing as she tried to shove my hair into a bun. I also remember my legs feeling like jelly after an hour’s lesson.

coping with anxiety - Caitlin ballet dancing

Ballet is a strict and exacting discipline – however beautiful it looks. It’s excellent for improving posture and deportment. Something quite a few girls today would benefit from. I actually think ballet is a bit of a vocation – it can certainly be hard work.

We’ll see how Caitlin gets on. I think the most important thing is to give your kids a chance to experience different activities if you can, encourage their progress but not be too disappointed if that activity is not for them.

Let’s be honest, I’m sure many parents may be spending a lot on activities their kids don’t really enjoy  – our kids’ hobbies are not always cheap, are they!

And at least I know where to park. Hope there’s a whacking great space available! Coping with anxiety is a constant drain and I’m managing it the best way I know how – by being proactive and tackling it head-on.

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  1. 31 October, 2018 / 7:57 am

    Well written! I hope Caitlin enjoys. Thanks for sharing

  2. Bethany
    17 May, 2018 / 9:37 pm

    I used to do ballet and it was so much fun, you learn balance, discipline and so much more

  3. Danielle
    17 May, 2018 / 8:11 pm

    Aww how cute. I can’t wait until my daughter is old enough to do ballet.

  4. Cecilia Keinapel
    17 May, 2018 / 3:19 pm

    Aww she looks lovely! I used to love going to ballet when I was a kid 🙂

  5. 16 May, 2018 / 10:22 pm

    I hope Caitlin enjoys her lesson and it must be really hard to cope with anxiety and getting your head and stomach in knots over micro planning x my mummy is exhausted thinking about it x

  6. Lynne Harper
    16 May, 2018 / 7:54 pm

    My anxiety has risen dramatically since having the smalls but its something that i try very hard to keep on top of. Well done Caitlin for getting into Ballet i also danced when i was younger

  7. 16 May, 2018 / 5:06 pm

    I am sure your little one will love the ballet lesson. Mine want to do this and gymnastic but we don’t have the time for anything else in our schedule. I like to check out parking options when looking to start doing something regularly something new, it might be a mummy thing!

  8. 16 May, 2018 / 4:21 pm

    I hope Caitlin enjoys ballet. Parking can really get touch and one way to battle it is by making sure you’re early to get a good spot.

  9. 16 May, 2018 / 8:49 am

    I love that you’re facing anxiety head on to be honest. It’s also awesome how supportive you are of your daughter. I think ballet will do her great. It teaches discipline and it keeps her active as well!

  10. 15 May, 2018 / 9:10 pm

    I don’t drive but can imagine I’d be a nervous parker! Love the ballet dress, so sweet 🙂

  11. Jade Bremner
    15 May, 2018 / 5:45 pm

    I have to scout out routes and parking where ever we go if not I’m on edge I sweat (even more) I get stroppy and then I get upset easily. I have always done it and never actually realised it was anxiety until a couple of years ago. I hope Caitlin enjoyed her ballet

  12. 15 May, 2018 / 5:25 pm

    I am like you with parking. I always get to places early so I can find a place to park that is easy to get in and out of. Good luck to Caitlin with her ballet lessons.

  13. 15 May, 2018 / 1:30 pm

    I haven’t parallel parked since I was required to do it for my driving test back in 2010. Nope, not even once. I just park further away and walk (yay Fitbit steps). I hope she enjoyed her ballet session. 🙂

  14. 15 May, 2018 / 11:29 am

    I hope Caitlin loves her ballet lessons! I totally sympathise with you and your bouts of anxiety. I don’t drive so when it comes to planning I have to check and re-check bus and train timetables and if all else fails I jump in a taxi!

  15. 14 May, 2018 / 10:18 pm

    Oh she looks so beautiful! My children are desperate to start ballet – hopefully this year. As a fellow anxiety sufferer I do relate.

  16. 14 May, 2018 / 3:51 pm

    I got my license a couple of months ago and I didn’t yet had the courage to take the car into the center of town, I prefer to park it in the huge parking at the mall and then walk. At home, I have a tight parking space and I have literally learned the angles, so I never fail to park. Parking is still a lesson in progress… :))

  17. 14 May, 2018 / 3:24 pm

    Good luck to Caitlin, I hope she enjoys her ballet lessons. Hands up I hate parking, I always try and head for the easiest way to park possible.

  18. Jenna Catlin
    25 February, 2014 / 1:21 pm

    interesting! mothers share so much burden, in order be less exhausted while parking they should park decently to avoid any further stress.

  19. Freya George
    13 February, 2014 / 8:36 am

    So here the need of valet parking Gatwick comes in. It reduce the parking stress and helps to live more lively. Nice blog.

  20. Hayley Reeve
    9 September, 2013 / 7:53 am

    I think anxiety levels rise with age. At the age of 35 I now struggle to visit the local supermarket without suffering some form of blind panic about something. Parking is one of them, our local supermarket is something reminiscent of a stock car derby, truly terrifying sometimes!

  21. Steve
    7 September, 2013 / 5:51 am

    I like this Pre-e,ptive parking! what abnout non-premptive parking?

  22. 6 September, 2013 / 8:12 pm

    I'm THEE planner. I have to plan everything, and I would probably have done exactly as you Linda 🙂 Hope she enjoys ballet, i have vague recollections of ballet in the community centre lol

  23. LaaLaa Monroe
    6 September, 2013 / 7:08 pm

    Oh I hope Caitlin enjoys ballet, it was something I wanted to do as a child, as much of a tom boy I was as a child and partly still am. Could imagine the discipline it takes. Aw, I'm quite the same with the micro planning, not sure if it's OCD or just wanting to be acurate and spot-on with things xo

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