It’s been a Joan Crawford sort of day.
If I had a turban and a cocktail shaker they would have come in useful.
My mood has veered from tired, frustrated, tetchy and on the edge of morphing into my arch nemesis “Shouty Mummy”.
Shouty Mummy is a stranger to Veet and likes the occasional cigar.
|If I pull this over my head, the kids might forget I’m here|
So what has Mommy Dearest been up to on this blustery perimenopausal day?
Washed net curtains to get rid of mildew (#FAIL), took kids to supermarket and tried to avoid buying any more cheap plastic toys (#EPIC FAIL) and cooked (well reheated) spaghetti bolognese (#FAIR TO MIDDLING).
Leaving aside my peculiar fondness for net curtains (how very Miss Marple), this has hardly been a day of sterling successes.
And, as a ‘late’ mother, this is one of the hardest aspects of motherhood to deal with after working for so many years.
Now, marketing is one of those professions where you can easily spend years feeling like you haven’t achieved anything at all.
In legal services, where I spent over 13 years, marketing is still in some Jurassic quarters viewed as “something to do with golf”.
Things have moved on but it may not be the best career choice for the results driven.
My daily question to myself is “how do I know I’m doing this (mothering) right?”
I worry that one mummy tantrum may irrevocably scar my kids, one shout too many may stunt their emotional development and one denial of a smile in favour of a stern talking to may blight their ability to ever play more than chopsticks on the piano.
I have a very conflicted view of discipline.
Motherhood involves a kind of subjugation of ‘self’.
It’s all about the needs of others, kids, husbands, partners, family, pets and I think sometimes maternal moodiness is more to do with this loss of identity than it is with the stress of parenting.
I struggle to find an appropriate role model for late motherhood.
Celebrity mothers have an army of nannies and housekeepers, not to mention personal trainers and chefs so I’m not sure their lessons are applicable to a stay at home mum in South Wales.
If you can think of an inspiring older mum, please comment and let me know. In the meantime, it’s a strong cup of tea for me, unless there’s a ‘y’ in the day.
Oh come on now, you know that makes it a legitimate wine night.