5 Life Lessons To Share With Your Kids

There is such a lot we need to teach our children and we have such a short space of time to do it.

These are just 5 of the life lessons I hope to instill in my kids.

Caitlin & Ieuan Hobbis

An education is never a waste.

I’ve never believed that “school days are the best days of your life” because mine, frankly, were endured rather than enjoyed, but I do believe that if you stop learning, you stop growing as a person. 

You may not need to understand glaciation or the digestive system of a rabbit but you are learning how to assimilate information, how to analyse and apply it.

When we get the inevitable “I don’t want to go to school” from the kids we gently explain that the subjects they are learning are like building blocks to a successful future. 

That if they learn to read, they can learn anything. That if they want to do a job they love, they need to learn now.

Neither a borrower nor a lender be.


As a general principle, this one stands the test of time. 

Friendship and money do not mix. 

That is not to say we would ever turn our backs on a friend in need but I think if you lend in those circumstances you are better off viewing the loan as a gift.

The kids are learning about money and the importance of saving at the moment.  

They are also learning about deferred gratification.  

The “I want it now” mentality has probably led an awful lot of people into the path of payday loans and a whole heap of credit card debt.

It’s Often Not About You.


Yes you have to stand up for yourself when someone is horrid to you but it helps to remember that happy, well-adjusted people usually don’t feel the need to bully, belittle or intimidate.  

If we can all remember that then perhaps we can treat bad behaviour towards us with sympathy and even a bit of compassion rather than letting the sad person indulging in it push our buttons to shore up their frail egos.

With the kids, whilst we tell them firmly that they must not put up with other children being horrible to them, we also tell them that if a special friend has been grumpy or a bit off, it is not necessarily anything to do with them.

Say sorry.

The flip side of this is that when we are in a bad mood it is very easy to take it out on other people.

As a family, we make a point of apologising when we need to, especially to the kids.  

We need to model the behaviour we want our kids to adopt so, if I’ve been a bit grumpy, I will explain the reasons why to the kids and apologise.

Make the most of every day.


This one is probably the most difficult of the lot. 

There are so many horror stories in Media that sometimes I can’t bear to read them.  

Making the most of every day is one of the things I struggle with but sometimes you just have to sit down, breathe and say “this is where we are now, and it’s OK”.

The kids are always looking ahead to the next weekend, trip out, cinema visit or party and we gently remind them that we can have a good time NOW, today.

Which lessons would you add? 

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Ex marketing professional turned family lifestyle blogger. I live in Cardiff with hubby Mat, Caitlin (10) and Ieuan (8).

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Ami
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There are some great lessons here, many my mum taught me 🙂

Bekaah Rose
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My mum taught me all of these! Thank you for a great post!

Lucy Vest
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Such good reminders. We may all know all of these but how often do we live every one?

Lucy
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Chantele Cross-Jones
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Great tips, I don't have kids yet but I totally agree with your ideas Two Hearts One Roof

Kezzie
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Hello Linda! I've come to visit from the BEDM list- trying to go and visit everyone a few times if I can! These are great tips- I really do agree with them. I agree very much presently with no.3 as my husband had to work all night last night to get some marking done and then worked all day. As he picked me up from the station, I was telling him about the food I'd bought and what dinners I'd got planned for the next 3 days to which he irritatedly said, "I'm not an invalid, you don't have to… Read more »

Mummascribbles
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What fab advice to pass on to your children – each on of them is so important, especially education. For as long as we love there will always be opportunities to learn and as we age, we realise what interests us. Great idea for a post 🙂 Thanks so much for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday

Maria @ Suburban Mum
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Some great advice here – no 4 is very important and I think it's something I have to remember to say to my boys when I have been grumpy or in a bad mood! x