This week it’s parents’ evening at our children’s school and since the Husband has managed not to be in the same postcode district, as usual, the task falls to me. At least Caitlin and Ieuan are finally in the same school and on the same site!
I have to be quite honest here. Attending parents’ evening is not my favourite thing to do.
Even though I love to see their artwork on the walls and thumb through their project books, spending 30 minutes past your allotted time for 5 minutes with their teacher doesn’t seem the most effective way of gauging their progress.
And, by the way, if you’re one of those parents who feels compelled to discuss your holiday / DIY / the cat’s health with the teacher, please try tuning in to the huffing and tutting of the irritated queue of parents pretending not to listen behind you.
It’s a form of parent one-upmanship which is amusing and annoying in equal measure.
But as I squat like Pocahontas with intestinal problems on one of those mini chairs, I find myself rehearsing the questions I’d really like to ask but don’t dare in case I come across as a babbling neurotic.
These are the questions to ask at parents evening I reckon we’d all really like answered.
And all of the above can be neatly summarised in this ONE question.
Do you think I’m an OK parent?
Because that’s what it’s really about, isn’t it?
Most of the time parents’ evening is not so much about your child’s academic performance as it is a barometer of your parenting skills. And, ironically, “do you think I’m an OK parent” is the one question many of us daren’t ask aloud for fear of being judged.
So we find other, more devious ways to get some feedback.
This is why Facebook this week will be awash with “well done Timmy, mummy is so proud you have got an A level in Astrophysics and you’re only in year 3” type posts.
How this makes parents of children who are struggling feel, I dread to think, but there it is again, that element of competition.
I have an idea. Why don’t we let our kids compete a little bit more and then perhaps the focus of parents evening might be more about their performance and a little less about ours.
Do I get a sticker?