In problem page edition 23 of 2018 from your online relationship coach – when your so-called friends keep leaving you out, when the love of your life gets another girl pregnant and when you cheated on your girlfriend and now she wants some space.
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A: It doesn’t sound great, does it? Particularly since you felt you had to remind him in the morning.
He’s not a child and perhaps he feels like he is being treated like one? No man is going to feel particularly sexy if he’s smothered.
If he has a history of letting you down, I wouldn’t waste any more time. Go and find a man who treats you like a woman, rather than his mum.
A: I’m afraid I think she told you what you wanted to hear – particularly if you put pressure on her to change her decision.
You can’t force someone to like you. Try that and you’ll find they almost always run in the opposite direction.
Your best hope is to be friendly, keep a respectful distance and stop putting pressure on the girl.
In the meantime, look for someone who reciprocates your interest.
A: Of course it isn’t. In your shoes, I would be very cross indeed.
You don’t say how large your friendship group is but if there’s just a couple of you and you are being excluded I wouldn’t stand for it.
Ask why you are not included and if you don’t get a kind or acceptable answer, it’s time to find new friends.
Demand to be treated with respect. Take up hobbies and interests where you can meet new people with whom you have something in common.
And say bye bye to the mean girls and boys.
A: I think, to be honest, this is her way of telling you gently that it’s over.
If you valued her that much then perhaps you shouldn’t have cheated on her in the first place.
I think you might have to say goodbye to this one. You could try a heartfelt apology and I assume that you are no longer cheating?
But ‘asking for space’ is right up there with ‘it’s not you it’s me’ in terms of romantic cliches.
Your best bet is to do as she asks in the hope that she may change her mind, but I wouldn’t count on it.
A: If it were me, I’d say bye-bye. I’m assuming he knew how you felt but went off and got another girl pregnant anyway?
You say he wants you there ‘as a friend’ but I don’t imagine for one minute the mother of his child will see it that way.
For the sake of your feelings and to avoid, frankly, being used as a potential booty call when the girlfriend is heavily pregnant and has possibly gone off sex, I think you should do the best thing for you – wish him well but tell him you’re moving on.
A: I really don’t see what his star sign has to do with it – I’m a Gemini myself and although we are supposed to be indecisive, in my experience whilst it takes a while to make a decision, one I’ve made it, that’s it.
I can tell you are really hurting but don’t spend hours mulling over horoscopes. He has been quite honest and told you things aren’t working for him.
Time to find someone new and more compatible – no matter what their star sign is.
A: I met my husband via Yahoo Personals in 2005 and 13 years later we’re happily married with two kids. It is perfectly possible to find a life partner, but there’s no magic bullet. You’ll meet all kinds of people on dating sites and you still have to do the legwork of getting to know them.
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